To be honest when I saw the letters “TBH” on my daughter’s Facebook page I didn’t know what it meant so I had to Google it. Afterwards I was a little put off by some of the things that kids say to each other. I really hate back-handed compliments and the TBH thing seems to perpetuate those, at least on teenage girls FB pages.
However, I began to think of all the things I say that begin with the words “To be honest….” and there were quite a few of them. Most pertained to running, our farm and just life in general. But to truly be honest, hard-core, down deep honest with myself, that’s scary. I started asking myself some harder questions.
Why has it been so hard to get back to running? That question just keeps coming up. I have friends & family asking me all the time if I’m “still running” and it irritates me sometimes. . I have to say though; there are many more people who are asking because they genuinely care about me. The fellow runners who want to know how I am & how far I’m going. Runners talk in miles & I love that! But the people who ask me with a smirk, who wonder why I ever ran to begin with, those with the “If you don’t win races, then why put yourself through the training?” mentality, those people irritate me. Why? I feel like they never wanted to hear that running simply made me happy. Like there has to be an ulterior motive behind it. Honestly running just made me happy. Did you catch that? Made, not makes. Scary stuff there. I have had a very hard time starting over. I didn’t really want to delve into the reasons, it scared me. I see things in bullets, so here is a list of things I ponder on my daily walks to feed the animals. Question: Why don’t you want to run? Why don’t you “like” running now?
- I will never run another marathon because I don’t have it in me.
- I just don’t like running anymore, it’s just too hard
- I don’t have time to run now (even though I create all the things around me that deter me from running.
- I have gained weight & I don’t want anyone to see me running
- Starting over sucks too much
- My feet hurt
- I never was a “good runner”, so why bother
- I AM AFRAID
Not sure what I’m afraid of, but to be honest, that was the most common thought that came to my mind when I pondered this subject. Fear. Have I turned into a coward? Is it true that I just don’t have it in me? The joy of running has left me? I don’t know why this rebound/reset in running has been so difficult for me. I don’t know why, but I can physically feel the power/pressure of the situation. Every time a friend asks me how I’m doing & how many miles I’m getting in, I feel it. It’s close to a panic. I don’t know why, but it’s very present & very real.
Each day that I run I try to examine how I’m feeling. Each day, little by little, when I’m running my smile gets broader, my joy is coming back & my fears are fleeing. I still have my doubts and negative feelings, but they are not always present. They are losing the battle with my positive and happy thoughts. Happiness is like raising rabbits, if you let it, it will multiply. I am breeding happiness each day with every run and every health conscious decision I make.
Above all, be honest with yourself-on where you are as a runner. Don’t try to please others, just please yourself. So just get out there, run and smile like you mean it!
